Chapter One: What's Wrong With Men?

This is a blog for those who have realized the error of their ways. We have all done wrong things in the past and it is time to own up to them. As a man I can tell you that I have done or thought wrong things. When I was younger, much younger I didn't understand what moral issues were all about. I didn't even understand the Golden Rule or that girls were fundamentally different and altogether unique and special creatures.

At some point and time, I don't remember how long ago it was to the year, I thought that were meant to be used by men for our own personal whims. Of course back then I had no idea about what sex was, but I thought that when you got older and had a wife you ordered her around, that was what she was there for, right?

Now I don't remember where I got this idea from or at the time that it came, but I remember that my parents weren't like this at all so it wasn't from at home. It was like somewhere before I had gotten to the age of reason, somewhere before I possessed a good deal of cognitive thought, I had been brought to the conclusion by who ever that women were meant to be used.

My point in saying this is that I think this is the first problem we must identify when we come to ask the question what is wrong with men?

Many men go through this stage, many of them never come out of it. Many of them go into their adolescence looking for sex without any need for commitment because women are disposable pleasures, meant to be won and not to be thought of as worthwhile, long term pursuits.

So before we went any deeper, we had to find the starting point. And that's where it begins.

Preface: Fame < Infamy

I think that much to the surprise of others my conversations with Prentiss don't involve video games, anime or things such as that. Last night was one such night, where we put aside our nerdy quandaries and discussed something that had to do with real life people and situations. This next part may not surprise you if you have read my posts for any length of time, the discussion came to women.

In regards to women, Prentiss and I are the same. We were never the type to think girls had cooties and most of our friends are female. I let out that I happen to detest most of the masculine population for various reasons. But we didn't try to dump all of the relationship problems off on men, although it would be the easy way out. I think that various problems are the doing of the women themselves. Like a girl who sticks around with a guy who is undoubtedly using her for sex or as his own personal skeet rag, is no better than the guy in the situation when she is told up front, by said guy what she is to him.

Much to her own accord, the warnings of friends, both female and male, go unnoticed and the girl in the end gets the raw end of the deal while the rawest end of the deal is passed on to us. Who is us? Well us is guys who are looking for something long term, who see no benefit in dating someone if there's no future in it. Anyone can get fucked, but what does it matter if you can't make love?

I know that this might be brash, this might sound to both men and women to be the pompous preachings of some little virgin who doesn't know the first thing about relationships...but I'm here to tell you that in that last regard, you're more than wrong. I have witnessed the down fall of relationships like the fall of angels from the blinding heights they once held. Angels who held more sway than Lucifer...and I can say this. No matter how good a relationship looks its not invincible if you think you're above knowing what to look out for.

Having mostly female friends has taught me a lot of about their side of things. And of course I know my side. Prentiss says we should write a book. I would actually be up for that. If gay guys can write books on dating women, why the Hell can't we?